Fall in love with yourself. Now I don't mean ego-puffery here; I mean really love yourself. That means everything. Be willing to go the distance in your life to discover who you are and why you're here. Realize "knowing" who you are, is a thing of the heart, not the head.
In Truth, who we are is love. Due to stresses in life, abusive, dysfunctional early childhood environments and beliefs about love we take on from society we can forget this. In the "forgetting," we may look to a potential partner to fill us up with the love we never got as a child or have very distorted views about love that make us go off center in our relationships.
We may have blinders on in choosing a partner because we don't want to feel deeper or really "see" those hidden aspects of ourselves that aren't so pretty. In this case we will deflect true love relationship because we are used to doing so in order to be safe. It takes a great deal of control to create security. This is a false sense of security though, and we end up living from a fear base unconsciously expecting a partner to protect us or unconsciously attacking whatever is perceived as a threat to our false identity.
We will also deflect that which is nourishing to us. When we are in this place of fear we hand our power over to someone that will take us away from having to go beyond this fixed way of being. We give them the responsibility for giving us freedom. Again this freedom will be false because it depends on someone accepting us for who we are. If we don't "know" who we are then we will attract someone at the same level of insecurity that we have.
We will attract to us wherever we are in consciousness. If we want someone to fall in love with us we must be doing the "heart work" to transform our hidden fears. This means facing our fear of feeling emotions and other sensations that are uncomfortable. There are so many courses that teach us to go beyond our fears by doing activities like walking on hot coals or busting boards with our hands, etc. I have to say that doing those activities do have value but they are not the whole picture for getting us to face our fears.
It is also important to be transmuting the fear in our feeling body in relationship. We develop our own voice in the world when we do so. To be fully present speaking your own truth from your heart instead of regurgitating some teaching from a guru in a workshop or book can be just as scary as doing those physical activities to show power. In fact speaking from our hearts can be more scary because at least when we are doing those physical things like walking on hot coals we see other people doing the same thing. When we speak from our hearts we don't know what the outcome is going to be. It is hidden.
If you really want someone to fall in love with you then be you. Speak from your heart. Love yourself enough, to take a stand with your own truth in the world. Develop your self reliance such that you are not dependent on someone else having to validate your existence. This does take practice especially when you have cell memories of mental and emotional abuse. Be willing to wobble at first. When you are willing to speak and act from your heart, even if you are a bit shaky you will have the respect and love from others. Initially you may be rejected by some because your truth may not be received at the time in which you give it. Sometimes it can take years for someone to connect with your truth. You create new "tracks" so to speak in your body, mind and emotions when you are willing to repeatedly speak your truth. More of you is able to come through the more you are willing to stand in your truth and speak it.
It is only then that you will have a love that is true. Your environment will reflect to how much you are loving yourself. This is because you are then truly receiving you by drawing out and radiating the energy and information from your higher self through your physical vehicle and into the world. Then you are truly living your authentic self in the world instead of being a carbon copy of someone else's opinion.
When you no longer care about what people think then you don't have to manipulate to get love. As you love yourself in mind, body and spirit you build a bridge through many layers of who you are. You become a pillar of love and strength and are able to face anything in the visible world as well as the invisible realms of spirit in your environment. Safety, security and trust become you.
Your Presence is felt and recognized by others then. You connect with people with more than language. You connect with their essence which is also love, when you speak and take action from your heart.
If you want someone to fall in love with you then be with you in all your relationships in every area of your life. Recognize that the relationship you are always having is with different aspects of yourself. Let go of attachments to how a true love relationship can show up in your life.
Dance to your own tune and you will attract a partner that is in resonance with your steps. Pick yourself up when you fall. Learn from the experience and you'll be able to land in love, dancing skin to skin and soul to soul in heaven on earth.