by Arden Davidson

Created on: October 09, 2009   Last Updated: November 25, 2009

All wedding receptions have certain protocol that is supposed to be followed, but none more so than military weddings. There are many exciting opportunities to make a military wedding special and memorable. However, it is essential to know the 'dos' and 'don'ts, so that your special day stands out for all the 'right' reasons.

The Arch of Sabers

The Arch of Sabers is undoubtedly one of the most spectacular features of a military wedding, but the protocol for this tradition brings to light many questions.

*Who can use it?

One of the most common questions regarding the arch of sabers is whether it is just for officers or if it is appropriate for all military personnel. While it used to be the case that this post-ceremonial pageantry was reserved for officers only, it has become increasingly acceptable for non-officers to enjoy it as well.

*Do both the bride and the groom have to be in the military?

No, they do not. Only one half of the couple must be in the military to make the arch of sabers (or swords or rifles) part of the wedding reception.

*Are there different rules and practices for different branches of the military?

Yes. Each branch is different when it comes to how the ritual is performed. You can check with your service branch to get all of the pertinent details. There are some commonalities that exist for all branches. For example, all of the saber, sword or rifle bearers must be in full uniform to participate in this portion of a military wedding. Also, in all of the branches of service, the walk under the arch is reserved for the bride and groom exclusively. The wedding party is not allowed to pass under the arch.

*Does the saber arch take place inside or outside?

The newly married couple's walk under the arch almost always occurs outside the chapel, however it is not against any military rules to do the saber arch indoors. It may be against the chaplain's rules, however; so the bride and groom will definitely want to consult with him first.

Other Unique Traditions for Military Weddings

*Using the groom's sword to cut the cake is another distinctive and crowd-pleasing way to honor both the military and the marriage. Just like a traditional wedding cake cutting tool, the bride and groom hold the sword together to cut the first slice. They serve each other first, then the rest of the guests at the wedding reception.

*According to the WeddingChannel.com, in many military weddings, the U.S. flag is displayed directly behind the center of the receiving line.

* The little plastic bride and groom on top of the wedding do not have to be dressed in the traditional tuxedo and white gown. They can wear the appropriate uniforms for a military wedding. (This is only acceptable for the enlisted member or members of the couple.)

* Decorations at the wedding reception can be (and probably should be) of the military branch's colors.

To find out more about the dos and don'ts of planning your ceremony and wedding reception, visit your military branch's website and/or speak with the chaplain who will be performing the military wedding ceremony. Congratulations! You are about to experience one of the most magnificent days of your life!

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