by Jami Wright

Created on: October 08, 2009   Last Updated: October 09, 2009

In our brave new world, the words 'I do' are not as solid as they were in our past. There are many outside and internal factors that force us into making decisions about getting married and about divorcing. To truly answer the question of 'why people get divorced,' you have to look at the problem from both ends; reasons for getting married and reasons for getting divorced. If a person gets married for the wrong reasons than divorce will likely follow. But a person can get married to the 'right' person; and things can go wrong within the marriage to cause that person to leave.

Wrong reasons to get married (which often result in divorce):

Money:

Money is one of the biggest reasons why people get married and another big reason why people get divorced. A couple that goes into a marriage thinking two incomes are better than one are truly finding a band-aid solution to a problem. The true solution is to fix your own money problems before you enter into that relationship. If you don't, the problem will only get bigger.

Settling:

As people age, mortality settles in. You start to think about children and being alone. That dream of finding the perfect mate starts to diminish. You haven't found him/her yet, you may never find your soul mate. With each failed relationship you start to wonder if you don't have a perfect match out there. As time continues on, you decide to marry 'Mr. Right Now'. The problem with this situation is that you will eventually start to wonder and even seek out what you were missing in the first place. This can result in affairs and broken hearts and families.

Things that can go wrong in a marriage that can cause a divorce:

Communication:

We live in a world of high tech and fast pace. The world that we call home has made tremendous advances in our everyday lives as well as relationships. The problem is that as we continue to advance in all things; it seems our emotional connections become a less important. Ask yourself, 'would you rather text a message than make a phone call'. If you said yes; you are relying more on technology to help you through your relationship than good old fashion love and emotions. A phone call is always better than a text. Voice can say so much more than words; a person can interpret speech correctly and words can be taken many different ways.

Priorities change:

When you get married you and your spouse should have decided on a path to take. Made decisions about important matters like; children, religion, employment, and

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