by Patty Marinelli

Created on: October 08, 2009   Last Updated: October 09, 2009

I visited a gypsy fortuneteller once, who looked me in the eye and whispered me a warning. She said, "Beware of your man. He is the devil in disguise, trying to steal your soul." That is the way that I would describe a Narcissist. After living with this soul-sucker for 9 years, I learned the hard way that this emotional disorder cannot be cured.

A Narcissist's main objective in life is to be the center of attention. His acts of goodwill are done only to put himself in the good favor of anyone who might notice. Everyone has a bit of this selfishness, but not to the extent of the Narcissist. When the Narcissist is not given the proper acknowledgment he believes he requires, he will turn into a spiteful, angry child. They will spout outlandish threats including lawsuits and physical violence.

Living with a Narcissist is a daily step into Hell. The mind games and manipulation are exhausting to the family members that are living under his roof. If there is no drama, he will create it. Family members live in fear that they are next on his pecking order and will live in a constant state of submission. Outwardly to the world, the Narcissist projects the image of a wonderful, giving man. He then will either project to the world that his family members are wonderful, or they are an ungrateful bunch of moochers. Blood is NOT thicker than water and no words are minced when they feel they have been wronged.

The Narcissist claims that they want loving relationships. But when the opportunity is standing right before them they will destroy it. Any fault they may have will be projected onto the person that they profess to love. The words of their loved ones will be analyzed, scrutinized and turned into a complete offense. There is no explaining, no reassuring, that will convince the Narcissist of the reality. The complete lack of empathy is so evil that it will leave you convinced you are dealing with the spawn of Satan. Once they have destroyed the relationship they will find a new source to cry to about how they had been wronged. Thus, a new cycle of Narcissistic torture begins. This new source will soon find themselves on the receiving end of the manipulation and games.

The soul of a Narcissist must be very tortured. I believe that everyone comes into this world with a pure soul. The Narcissist's soul has been scarred by childhood traumas and events. Most grown adults can recall childhood disappointments and regrets. But they learn to either deal with it or grow from it. It is as if the Narcissist is still stuck in the childhood event, trying to recreate it so they will eventually win.

I would like to heed warning to anyone involved with a Narcissist. The best action is to not respond. The Narcissist thrives on drama. If you are living with the Narcissist, God Bless you. If you are dating a Narcissist I would suggest that you think long and hard about what kind of future you want to have. If you want to have your thoughts, wishes and dreams controlled and to walk two steps behind them, then stay. If not, RUN FOR THE HILLS.

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