by dairyklim

Created on: October 08, 2009   Last Updated: April 19, 2011

Head or heart? One of the most difficult questions to ask when faced with a very difficult dilemma of staying or leaving (fight or flight) stop or go, may it be a career decision, a stance on something, or love and relationships. It takes the scrutiny that leads to discernment. Anybody could experience this dilemma at every opportunity. It makes us human. It is how we celebrate our lives.

After two years, I decided to rewrite about this topic. I accidentally saw this site again (after a long time of not visiting).

I have realized that I still take the same stance. The foundation of all things must be love, thus the use of the heart. We are compelled to think most times, to understand the rationale of things that affect our hearts.

When we encounter difficulties,  hardships, and when we struggle, I believe these events provide an opportunity to teach and for us to learn. Life is a great orchestration. We come to this earth as robust, formless beings, but there are episodes of trimming down, narrowing down, and deconstructing. This is what I say is the REFINEMENT process, that eventually leads us to who we want to be and who we really are. In the process where we are refined as INDIVIDUALS, we would have an internal alarm system that tells us what the right thing to do is for a specific situation. How we decide, even how unrandom we think it is, is still not random. While we do our decision-making, it's inevitable that there is underlying motive why we decide on something. Therefore, it is deliberate, because we all have the FREE WILL. In the process when we are refined to become the individual that we want to become and the individual that the universe helped conspired for us to BECOME, it takes balancing using the mind and heart. What matters is that we are aware of what we're going for, with the guidance of both our minds and hearts.

I believe that we always know what to do. But when we start to mind others and less of ourselves, then confusion suddenly comes in. That's when we become indecisive. Not minding others is not necessarily being careless. It is actually a way for us to be CAREFUL and CARING. Because what we don't have inside, we can not give out.

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