Head or heart? The most controversial question that exists for both the male and the female, at any point, in any occasion that involves decision-making. This is a plain but critical question that can make or break one. I have friends who usually uses their heart, and a few who uses their head.

Being able to weigh and guage which to use is a skill, a skill that you gain based on experience, wisdom and gut intsinct and yes timing is of great essence...

When it comes things /matters/people that you love, I have always believed that your LOVE for it is the foundation of anything and everything. The most basic reason that pushes you to think hard about this matter is because it is something that's close to your heart. Whether it be buying a car, choosing a partner, deciding which job offer to accept or which school to send your child to.

My stand on this is that in the process of identification of what it is that matters to you, be guided with your heart.

But in order to maintain and sustain that decision, you must be logical and reasonable with your actions to make it last/ longterm. What I'm saying here is that science and structure is good to help you live through everyday struggles. But also, not leaving your heart behind.

I've been in a relationship full of ups and downs, that's been struggling for the longest time. So much has happened... mostly sad, hurtful events. I've always believed that my head has saved me from crappier, messier situations because i was wise to use it. I might not appreciate it because sometimes using my head is keeping away from the influence of the person I love... which also makes me sad. Being wise may also mean being more realistic, thinking of the big picture, and allowing you and your partner to grow. Using your head helps you to make more sound judgments. But then again, it should be made with the help of your sincere love for that matter/ thing or person. It starts with a clean, good intention, and the follow up is guided by both the heart and mind. And oh, it's not too much to ask to love yourself first.

We are humans because we have a heart to feel and mind to think. As the saying goes, "if uncertain, do nothing..." somethings are brewed through an incubation period. Things reveal and unfold right before your eyes whether you ask for it or not.

Some things conspire without the help of human intervention. So if you feel like things are not falling into place, or you might be pushing too hard... breathe, step back and take the view from outside the situation.

That should keep us all sane.

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