by Aretha P. Crowder

Created on: October 07, 2009   Last Updated: October 09, 2009

Dealing with jealousy and insecurity in a relationship can be a tough issue. Jealousy is often an issue that contributes to many relationship break-ups. Although there may be other factors that contribute to conflicts in relationships, jealousy is a major issue. Learning how to confront your own feelings of jealousy and insecurity in your relationship requires compromise on your part, if you plan to have an enjoyable, healthy relationship experience.

In confronting your own feelings of jealousy in your relationship, you must be willing to work through these feelings, as jealousy is a natural human emotion. However, you must also be wary of extreme feelings of jealousy that can typically lead to destructive behaviors that could destroy your relationship in the end.

There are ways that you can work to improve your relationship and establish trust between the two of you. One way to address your fears and doubts is by communicating with your partner.

How do you communicate your feelings your partner.

Communication is key in any relationship, whether it's personal or professional. In this case, we are taking a look at ways to help you effectively communicate your feelings of jealousy and insecurity to your partner. Although this can be a difficult time in your life, communicating your fears and doubts effectively with your partner is the first step, and most important step in gaining or restoring trust in your relationship.

Here are some helpful ways to communicate your fears and doubts to your partner:

1.Suggest an ideal place and time to initiate the talk, such as a walk in the park or

a dinner date.

2. Be honest when revealing your concerns to your partner. This is your time to vent.

3. Avoid playing the blame game.

4. Take responsibility for your actions and feelings.

5. Acknowledge your fears and doubts. Address what person or event triggers your jealousy.

6. Remain calm when initiating the discussion because jealousy is often a sensitive topic. Outbursts and uncontrollable rage will not solve the problem.

7. Be prepared when communicating your fears and doubts to your partner. For example, don't initiate the conversation unless you can substantiate your feelings.

8. Be realistic. If the presence of your partner's ex is a major trigger of your jealousy in your relationship, ask your partner to limit his/her contact with the ex, but be realistic and don't expect this to happen overnight.

9. Tell your partner that you need reassurance from him/her

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