by Crystal Lambert

Created on: October 07, 2009

A relationship is something that is so keen in every person who has ever lived. Every one feels a longing that something or someone is missing. Maybe having a child will fill part of that but then there is the longing that has been instilled within us to have a partner. A partner that is supposed to uphold his side of his commitment. The question remains as to when it is to be considered a committed relationship. After all shouldn't you both agree that is a serious relationship where the both of you are committed to it.

There is a point to all this. The point be made is that both people tend to see there relationship with the other person differently than the other person sees the relationship. When you see the relationship as being with just one person and that person is the other person in the relationship then a relationship starts to become alive and starts to blossom. When one realizes that the other is not as committed as they thought this is where trust issues start to arise and then you have affairs that start happening. So, where do you draw the line in saying that him talking to another woman is okay? Is it okay for him to have a friend to talk to? Is it okay for it be someone that is not you? Why does it have to be a woman? Why can't it be a man? Would you let him even if you knew the woman and the woman knew you? where do you draw the line for you to trust him? These questions start playing in the back of head like a tape recorder that is stuck on these sentences and it never goes out of play and keeps rewinding when it starts to sink in.

Trust is a serious issue that many couples face and all these questions that are being asked deep within your train of thought is why a relationship with a cheater will never work. You might be able to look the other way, but ultimately you still do not trust him in your heart and as along as the trust is broken which it will never be the same as it was before you knew, then you will always have a cheater for a boyfriend. No matter if they had been forgiven, the trust will always be broken.

It takes time to build trust in a relationship, but it can be broken down in minutes and it will never be the same again no matter what you try to do to fix it between the two of you. You can't fix the past and you can't fix the knowledge of knowing what happened in the past and the fact that you will always fill that he or she will be with someone or is thinking of someone else when you are with them. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to them to make either one think that a cheater will work out in the relationship.

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