by Carmel Brulez

Created on: October 06, 2009   Last Updated: October 21, 2009

The fact that you are asking yourself the question SHOULD I SETTLE FOR A LESS THAN PERFECT RELATIONSHIP OR MAN proves things are not 100% perfect. But they rarely are, even with couples that are totally compatible and in love. Every relationship has its good times and bad; your partner will not always be, say, and do what you would prefer.

If you are young, attractive, and sexy then why settle for someone who is old and ugly? If you are careful with money and have a very good income then why settle for someone who gambles, is too lazy to work or in a very low income, or wastes money? If you are faithful, loyal, and caring then why settle for a man who is a two-timing cheat or does not really care about you?

Ask yourself what the advantages would be to being in this relationship with this person - and, of course, the disadvantages. If there are bigger advantages and more advantages, stick with it. If you feel trapped, unhappy, neglected, unloved, used, or bored then you would probably be far better off on your own, at least until you find someone who is more suitable. Do not forget that you have your family and friends to spend time with, support you, and give you confidence until you find someone else. You will not truly be alone.

You should settle for the less-than-perfect relationship or man, because most of the time a perfect person or perfect relationship is impossible to find, or you would have to wait a lifetime to find them. But never compromise your lifestyle, values, morals, principles, or needs to fit in with someone else or just to be with someone. If you want children and your man does not, then which do you want more? This man, or children? Do not forget that you can always find another man with whom you can have children. Even if you make this sacrifice for him, you may still split up with him and/or regret it later.

What is it you seek from this relationship? If it is companionship, then is your potential partner great company and a good listener? If he is, does he spend a lot of time with you or just a few hours here and there? Are you actually getting what you want? If you seek someone as security and for material or financial reasons, then it is pointless to get together with a man who cannot or will not provide for you adequately. If you have children and want a father figure and stable influence for your children, then do not pick someone who has been in prison, is unreliable, selfish, or dishonest. If your relationship is just about great

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