by Carmel Brulez

Created on: October 06, 2009   Last Updated: October 07, 2009

Long term relationships are far better. WHY? Because you are putting a lot of time, effort and emotion into this relationship and it is mostly just wasted if the relationship does not last. Anyway what is the point to it being short term? You will then be without a partner and looking for someone else, having to go through the whole process of finding someone suitable and getting to know them and trust them. You could end up repeating this process a dozen times in a year. And what do you do in between? When you have just come out of one short term relationship and are looking for another? Get frustrated, lonely and bored I presume.

If someone is good enough to go out with, have long conversations with, romance, date and sleep with then surely they are worth some consideration. Obviously if they behave badly or turn out to be a lot less than they led you to believe and that you had hoped for you dump them. But this would be the same if you went into a relationship expecting it to be short term. There is a very well known saying... better the devil you know... how true this is. If you get to know someone, with all their faults and good points, and you want a lover in your life who gives you passion, romance, company, laughter and support then surely you are better off sticking to the one you have been seeing for a while and have got to know properly? It is very unlikely that you would be able to end one relationship and move on to another straight away. And when you do find the replacement you do not really know what you are letting yourself in for. They might be very nice. They might be nasty, deceitful and selfish.

Partners and lovers are not like pairs of shoes where you use one for a bit and then move on to another. It is far more complicated. Shoes do not have feelings. Your partners and lovers and you do. If a lover has pleased you for the entirety of the relationship and then you end it, why? What do you gain from this? You hurt them and you lose out yourself. Maybe one of you will want to end the relationship later because of practical or emotional matters, but to end it simply because it is only allowed a certain time span is, quite frankly, mad.

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