by Clare Yap

Created on: October 06, 2009

Hello, my name is Clare, and I'm a doofus when it comes to love. You know, I like to think I'm a fairly decent catch. I'm intellectual (read, intellectual does not necessarily means intelligent!) I think quickly, I actually enjoy math despite being a chick. I'm fairly savvy when it comes to making small talk, and I like getting to know people. I don't dig my nose in public, I don't snort and thank god, I don't have a whiny voice that grinds on people's nerves. I may be a little bit of a nerd but hey everyone possesses their little quirks right? And I may not be the prettiest girl around but I get by fine.

When it comes to people of the opposite gender though, I'm a hopeless mess. I'm fine when its all friendly, I flirt fine, banter is okay. But having fallen out of dating proper since god, 5 years ago, seriously, I'm totally clueless when it comes to dating. I totally started off wrong-footed and fell too deep too fast. And yeah, guilty as claimed I bought into the Disney version of love. Oh my god you mean he isn't going to sweep me off my feet now and be this flawless prince charming? Bless the soul of the poor guy who is here that isn't exactly working the way I want him to, and being considerate, caring, giving and loving from the very first glance at day one.

So I spoke to a couple of my guy friends, and here is five cents worth of wisdom for you to take away (as opposed to two cents, since it seems that some people on the net do agree with these points!)

#1 More Often than Not, the Guy is Unsure of what He Wants as Well

Guys don't plan long term or to get married, until they see their career falling into place or (let's face it,) their friends start going down for the count. Knowing this, most guys are still more than willing to enter relationships but they require pushes along the way. The key is to know when to push, and let the relationship evolve to the next level before pushing again. Push too hard, and it will break. Be warned!

#2 Sometimes All You Can Do is Love and Support Them

This doesn't mean you become a doormat, mother them (which guy wants to date their mother after all?) or schedule your life around theirs. Keep following your interests and make sure you maintain a healthy social life but at the same time, let them know you appreciate their presence in your life (every guy likes a little ego boosting) and

#3 Limits. Learn them.

While guys find it amazing (and sometimes amusing) that a girl can go on and on about the nitty-gritty details

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