by Carol Gioia

Created on: October 06, 2009

Delaying fatherhood can have a positive impact on the lives of the more mature man's children. While an older father could potentially have less physical stamina for keeping pace with active youngsters than his younger counterparts, the advantages derived from his maturity might far outweigh that factor.

Children of mature fathers could potentially have a greater chance for stability and financial security to enhance their early childhood experiences. The influence of a calmer, more mellow father might result in a less volatile relationship between father and child during the teenage years.

The positive end result of delayed fatherhood could be a closer bond between the adult child and his older father. The relationship forged and nurtured in the formative years might culminate with the child reaching adulthood and viewing his father with the same affection and nurturing attitude he experienced as a child.

Delayed fatherhood brings to the child/father relationship:

* Emotional preparedness

The more mature a man is, when he embarks on the journey of fatherhood, the more likely he will be emotionally stable. Having sowed his "wild oats," he will be content to dedicate his time and energy to his offspring.

His own positive character traits will potentially be firmly established, enabling him to identify his aspirations for his children's future values and behaviors. His parenting skills might encompass teaching, as opposed to preaching. He might have a clearer understanding of discipline, and the virtue of earning respect, rather than demanding it from his children.

* Financial security

A more mature father could be established in his career and have increased earning potential. His ability to provide the necessities of life and some amenities to his children could be enhanced. His children might have a greater opportunity for higher education, which would enrich their own futures. An older, more settled, father could be a good role model for behaviors and habits that translate into success.

* Unconditional love

An older father will have already learned through his own life experience to accept all facets of his children's personalities without qualification. He might be less demanding, with more realistic expectations and a more forgiving spirit. An older father might view positive reinforcement at a positive discipline technique and avoid resentment building in his children when they reach the age of potential rebellion in their teens.

* Happy family life

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