by L. Landrum

Created on: October 04, 2009

BOUGHT SENSE IS BETTER THAN TAUGHT SENSE!

You constantly "teach" and have "taught" your kids the right way to do things. You tell them:

Turn off your light
Quit staring into the fridge
Close the door
Why is your TV on when no-one is watching it
Don't back talk
Clean up your room
Stop throwing a fit
Quit fighting
Stop Arguing

And the nagging, rather "teaching" continues.

This does not work.

Here are some sure fire ways to teach your children rather than punishing them.

1. Give them an allowance for doing their chores, this enables them to have money and understand that you have to work for it.
2. Post a chart on the fridge showing their chores and mark off only when done and done correctly.
3. If they do not do a good job they do not get paid no second chances for that day.
4. At the end of the week, go over their chore list and pay them for what they have done and explain why they did not get the full amount.
And then deductions come along..

Now because your kids have money they can start to learn the value of it. They worked hard to earn it, wouldn't it be awful if they had to pay it back?

If your kids leave the lights on in their rooms they are charged for it each time. I charged my nephews .25 cents each time they left their light on and were not in their rooms. At first they thought oh well, that is until payday (allowance) came.

Put your grocery list on the outside of the fridge, this avoids the standing and looking method kids use to see what they want to eat.
If they are caught standing with the fridge door open just looking I would charge them (not immediately you have to be reasonable) but again it was .25 cents.

If they left the TV on and left the room and did not come back right away, I charged them.

They each had their own laundry day, if they did not take care of their laundry by a certain hour they did not get to do laundry again until their day and if they did do their laundry but left it in the dryer for someone else to take care of. ..they were charged .25 cents for the service of carrying to their room. If they argued or fought, if the back talked or caused problems they paid for their actions rather than getting punished any other way.

On payday they are paid first and then have to pay out their bills used.
Lights will stay off, they will go outside to play or immediately turn off the TV. They will think twice before doing something wrong etc.

When children are taught the way life really is you will find that punishment is not really necessary

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