by Arden Davidson

Created on: October 04, 2009   Last Updated: October 23, 2009

You are looking for love, but you are worried the new man in your life is only looking for sex. How do you know if you are being "played" before it is too late? And how do you know when to trust that you are NOT being played, and let your heart fully embrace this new relationship?

These are questions that all women must ask, but that very few can actually answer. To help you along in figuring these things out, here is a guideline for determining if the man in your life is only interested in "sex," or if he is truly interested in "you."

1. If he says he wants to keep it casual, believe him.

If your man has ever told you that he is not ready for a commitment, that he is just looking to have fun or that he is not looking for anything serious, do yourself a favor - believe him. Many women try to convince themselves that once this man gets to know them, his attitude towards relationships will change. It won't. If he is telling you these things, then he is essentially letting you know that this is a casual relationship and it is going to stay that way until he is ready to move on to someone else. There is no need for guessing games here. He has essentially come right out and told you he is only interested in sex. You will have no one to blame but yourself if you choose to believe otherwise.

2. Trust your instincts.

While your gut can let you down at times, it is still the most reliable source for detecting B.S. While you definitely should believe it when a man tells you he is not interested in a serious relationship, this does not necessarily mean that you should automatically believe him when he says he IS interested in a commitment. Some men will tell you anything you want to hear just to get you into bed, or to keep you there if you've already gone that far.

If your gut is telling you that he is insincere and that all he is really interested in is sex, then you owe it to yourself to find out if your instincts are right. A professional psychic can help you figure out if the little voice inside of you telling you he is "a player" is on the mark, or if it is just your fear of getting hurt talking.

3. Monitor his behavior

The old saying, "actions speak louder than words," is not just a cliche, it is a fact. Men who are only interested in sex will behave in ways that are often far more telling than the words coming out of their mouths. Some of these telltale signs include:

*He doesn't spend much time with you before or after sex

*He makes advances when you are trying

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