by Arden Davidson

Created on: October 03, 2009   Last Updated: October 21, 2009

You spend half your life searching for the perfect man, and when you finally realize he doesn't exist, you try to turn a regular guy into Prince Charming. How's that working out for you so far? Probably about as well as it has worked for the millions of other women who have ventured down this same pointless path.

You Are Not Ty Pennington.

Women often view the men they are dating the way a real estate investor views a house - as a "fixer upper." Unfortunately, it takes more than a hammer and a few nails to create a miraculous transformation. Chances are, the man you are dating comes with a built in "as is" tag, and no matter how much you invest in your personal "project makeover" the weak foundation of your relationship is going to eventually crumble if you cannot learn to accept him, flaws and all.

There is, however, a fine line between accepting imperfections in the one you love and being a doormat. How do you know when you are being too critical versus being reasonably cautious? How can you tell if the red flags you are seeing are signs of disaster or signs of paranoia? If you are having trouble making these determinations for yourself, the best possible thing you can do is consult a psychic. A psychic can help you find answers to these questions and guide you in the direction that will be most beneficial to you in the long run. You may even find out that you are not so much in love with your man, but you are actually just in love with the idea of being needed by someone.

You Are Not a Genie.

Every woman wishes at some point that she could cross her arms, bop her head, and - "ta da!" - the flawed man in your life will become the perfect man. The problem, of course, is that the fantasy man that graces our television and movie screens does not exist. Realistically you know this, just as you know that you are not perfect either.

Still, many women are convinced that they have found the proverbial 'diamond in the rough' and are determined to buff that jewel up until it shines as brightly as the ring she fantasizes he will someday put on her finger. Magic is a nice fantasy, but it is not going to help you find love in the real world.

So what will help you find love in the real world? First you have to determine what qualities you can live with in a partner and which ones you cannot. Consulting a professional psychic is hands down the best way to find guidance in making these determinations. You don't want to be too particular, but you don't want to settle either.

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