by Carmel Brulez

Created on: October 02, 2009   Last Updated: October 04, 2009

There are benefits to being the 'other woman', and few women are silly enough to get involved with a married man if it is going to lead them to heartache and grief instead.

Nowadays many women are very comfortable financially, due to their hard work and professional status, and have no wish to live with someone full time. They want the romance and the sex, and to have a friendship with someone they get to know and have continuity with, but without falling in love and having children and getting bogged down with the realities and boredom of seeing him every day, meeting and spending time with his family, doing his ironing, having his children and listening to him snoring at night.

The other woman can have another or other lovers and he has no right to complain. She may have a husband of her own. She can travel the World with her friends and just see him as and when she can fit him in. Few married men can afford to keep a mistress and few mistresses would want to be kept anyway. Few married men can afford expensive hotels and restaurants. But it is still more exciting to meet a chatty, friendly, sexy married man who is good company than a single man who takes you for granted and wants to just sit at home watching football all evening.

By seeing a married man the mistress is more in control. She is exciting and she is offering him something his wife is not. Something most woman would not bother with with him. So she can insist he romance her and treat her and look after her to a certain extent. If she tires of him she can easily get another single or married man.

By seeing a married man she keeps her finances to herself. It is none of his business what she earns and what she spends it on. She decorates her home as she sees fit, regardless of what his favourite colours are.

She sees her family and friends when she wants, and other men if she pleases. She has private time to just relax and read a book when it suits her. The man has to arrange to see her so she can easily say she is too busy for a week and he cannot complain or change things.

Every time she sees the married man it is a DATE. There is no boredom because of seeing each other sitting around with curlers in your hair and waxing your legs. The allure is still there and has not been removed by daily life.

She does not have to help him if he has financial worries, nor soothe his brow and nurse him when he is ill in bed. She only has the good bits. Yes the wife has a house and car and holidays, but if the mistress is a professional with a good brain she can easily earn the money to pay for these things herself, without giving up her independence and being bored to tears.

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