by Morgan Barnhart

Created on: October 02, 2009

Before getting married, I had to earn the respect of my husbands parents. They had never met me before I moved to New York and they were very skeptical of me. However, once they met me, they found out how nice I was and they really liked me. I was so relieved when I heard they liked me. I knew that one day I was going to marry their son so I wanted to be on the best of terms with them.

Before we got married, they were so generous towards me and my husband. They not only approved, but they wanted to help out in anyway possible. They could just tell we were in love and that was all that mattered to them. They knew I was a good person and they knew that their son was happy. My husband was so thrilled that his parents and me got along that he was happier because of it. He constantly tells me to this day, "I'm so happy you and my parents are getting along."

It's not difficult to get along with your in-laws. Try to get to know them and in turn let them get to know you. Maybe you guys got off on the wrong foot, it can always be solved. Don't get angry with your in-laws, be the bigger person and stay calm if they try to attack you. That'll not only show that you're an adult, but you know how to handle your emotions, which carries over into the marriage.

It will certainly make your life much happier because not only will your in-laws be happy, but you'll be happy knowing your in-laws are happy. It's pretty well known that the majority of arguments in a marriage have something to do with in-laws.Your in-laws could be more willing to help you out in life if you ever need it. Of course they'll help their own child without a second thought, but they'll hold it over your head for the rest of your life.

Your in-laws are your significant others parents, if you love your significant other, then you should learn to love her/his parents as well. We all have quirks and annoyances, and you probably have a few quirks and annoyances that they don't like, either. Try not to always bring them up, try to live with the in-laws you've been dealt. Some are more of a hand full then others, but don't worry about it. Relax and remember, you married their son/daughter, not the in-laws.

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