by Nicole Bartlett

Created on: February 12, 2007   Last Updated: May 11, 2007

Dependent

Dedicated to all my friends, All of us exceptional women

What makes women dependent on a man? It the fact that as little girls daddy is usually known as the protector, foreseer, and all holy being to us? Do we model the men we mate with behind our fathers? If daddy is and does everything for us what does it make us? Spoiled a little too demanding and high maintenance. If daddy isn't there or doesn't have the time for us what does it make us? Starving for affection, looking for love via a father figure in older men. Where does the cycle break?

Do women live in a fantasy world? Yes, No. It's hard to tell. Women read romance novels as girls and get a picture that that is a real man. Look at society today, if this were true we'd have more life long relationships that are simple; you find your mate/soulmate for life and live happily ever after. Don't get me wrong, I am a lover of romance novels, but it is hard for some to know the difference between reality and fantasy. After reading a romance novel I find myself wanting my husband to have some of the qualities as the male character in the novel. Man is mortal, not fictional.

I feel I am independent, but am I. I have a job, my own money, I pay my portion of the bills etc..... I see women (not all women) wrapping their entire life and being around a man and can't and/or won't listen to reason, but can't see the consequences it has on friends, family, children, and any others involved in their lives. Cutting off the ones who matter most is always the wrong thing to do. What about the children? Where does that leave them? Where does the cycle break? New environments, new faces, new everything? And parents wonder why their kids are hyper-active, mean, and act out. Will we ever get a clue?

Does this cycle continue until your daughter is in the same boat? Or your son is fighting out constantly against life in general. How can we make it different? Is there any real answer?

My mother once told me never to let anyone walk over me. Does that make me a bitch because I take nones crap? In the eyes of society today, yes! If I go after whatever I want no matter the cost I am either considered a little loose or just plan flirty. if a man goes after what he wants no matter the cost he is more of a man. Women can have her whole life ahead of her; a job, money in the bank, status and as soon as she gets a man her whole life either goes down the tubes or a competitive conflict. This process is over time. She is strong willed,

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