by Jo Ann Wentzel

Created on: September 29, 2009

Were you ever out and about when you were overwhelmed by other people's kids who were definitely out of control? Did you wonder why parents would put up with such behavior? I have and now have come to certain conclusions.

Some parents are very lazy. It is so much easier to just put up with kids being bad than to take the time out to correct them. Kids are a lot of work, of that there is no doubt. Children need boundaries and limits otherwise they will be out of control. They need parents who care enough to discipline them. When parents do not try to control their children this is one of the major reasons kids become out of control.

A second reason is a lack of intelligence and education on the part of the parents. They simply do not know better. I feel an overwhelming urge to help them and show them how to do that. In fact for many, many years that is exactly what I did, but alas, it is no longer my job. Now, it would be looked upon as interfering in someone else's business, but still there are times when I cannot help myself.

Oblivion and indifference when it comes to maintaining control over your own children seems to be another issue. It is a fact that many people are in their own drug induced world. Some are taking so many medications for so many problems that they cannot function properly themselves and certainly do not seem capable of taking proper care of or disciplining their children. We also have, unfortunately, an increasing number of people who live on illegal drugs and they do not know what planet they are on, much less know and care for what their children may be up to at any given time.

The results of this kind of parenting, is that many children are not disciplined at all. Lots of kids have little parental interference in their day to day activities and so do their own thing. They are unwatched and so can constantly get into lots of trouble. Kids have no idea of how they should even behave if they are never disciplined. A parent must show by example and teaching how to behave in the appropriate ways. Without this guidance, kids will never learn what is right.

Recently at a medical facility I saw a young man of 8 or 9 who was loud, obnoxious, and rude. He was rejoicing over his ability to make loud bodily noises. He was being rough with the furnishings and just a royal pain in the butt. He turned on a TV meant for classes with new moms even when a sign said not to. He almost upset furniture, was unkind to his mother and she was hardly any better.

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