by candydro

Created on: September 28, 2009

Ahhh.... The dreaded wedding guest list. Quite possibly the most debated part of any wedding. Unfortunately unless you have an unlimited budget it is impossible to make everyone happy. The most important thing is to make sure the bride and groom are happy along with whoever is contributing to the wedding however keep in mind that contributing should not mean controlling unless you want to leave all the planning to someone else.

The first thing you need to do is figure out your budget for food, decorations, seating and how many people you can fit in your venue. You also need to decide if you want people bringing children or if you want them to be able to choose their own someone to come with them.

You should already know your must have people write them down first. ex: close friends and family. Next on your list should be your obligation people. ex: work related, people that you know would be offended if you didn't invite them or a close friend or family member would be offended if you didn't invite that person. After that it's free reign, everyone that you want to see on one of the biggest days of your life should be written down. If you can't invite everyone that you want to your wedding you can send announcements and dvds of the wedding video or pictures so they will feel included.

After that is settled if you have restraints such as budget, space, or just the desire to only hve close friends and family at your event and not everyone you have ever met and their closest friends then you need to voice that to the people that matter. For instance you don't want the person that is paying for the wedding to feel slighted so express nicely but firmly what you want or what the situation is so they know from the beginning what you want.

If you have family or future family like I had they want everyone they have ever met to be there and they will use no limit tactics to get their own way. Even pulling the 'you don't love me' line or the 'I'm paying for this so I can invite whomever I want' line which was my favorite thing to hear after a flier was posted in the church resulting in about fifty people that neither of us had ever met but we still had to pay for their food. So don't let that happen to you be firm and express your reasons or concerns and they will be more likely to respect your wishes.

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