by Kenny Tran

Created on: September 26, 2009   Last Updated: November 07, 2009

Without a doubt, a father's absence can be unimaginably painful. And i don't say this with any happiness, because there is absolutely no joy in losing someone that maybe you didn't even know. Although my father is still alive, I can't imagine where I would be without him. Indeed, a father's absence does affect the children.

We've all been there where we have just lost a loved one, such as a close friend or relative, whether if it was in or outside of school. It can make you seem to think negatively about yourself. For example, you may wish you could've did this or that before they left. You know the sad feeling, right? And such regret seems to stay like a scar in your heart. It never goes away. The same thing applies especially to the father.

Unforunately, my grandpa on my father's side of the family recently passed away a few years ago. But to my father and I, it seems that the day was only yesterday. I still remember that day clearly. At the funeral, my father broke and began to weep, not wanting to let go of the casket that contained his father. That was the first time I've ever seen him cry in my entire life. I couldn't help it and began to cry as well. This funeral had changed my life, to say the least. It made me seem to think and ask myself, what if i lost my father? Once I lose my father, i know it's going to be absolute haywire for me. I can't imagine how much sadness would overtake me.

A father often plays a big role in the family such as providing a big sense of security or whatsoever. I remember my early childhood, when I used to want all sorts of things. And it was always my dad that got it for me. Whether if it was video games or whatever, he got it for me. He got it for me not because I wanted it. He had the ability to not get it for me. But to express his love, he did. I've lived some odd years now and I still could not repay him for his love. Whenever I feel down, he's always there to motivate me and keep me moving forward.

It is all too bad, that not many people know the pain that a child has to sustain without a father and also a mother. Thank God I'm not an orphan. I wouldn't be here otherwise.

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