by Carla Coles

Created on: September 26, 2009

What is the Difference Between Conditional Love and Unconditional Love?

To begin with, conditional and love are two words that have nothing in common. There is no such thing as conditional love. Love by the very definition comes with no conditions. You cannot turn your love on and off like a faucet. Conditional love is not true love because it is looking for its own interest. Unconditional love looks for the interest of the one that has your heart.

Unconditional love is a gift that most will never experience. To experience this type of love you have to be willing to give of your self without looking for anything in return. To be completely free with your feelings is an act of trust and most people today find it hard to trust anyone. Also, because of the me first attitude; working to build unconditional love is more of a commitment than most are willing to make. These are just a few reasons why unconditional love seems so out of reach.

What is unconditional love? Unconditional love has no limits, it is dependable, self sacrificing and humble. Unconditional love builds up its partner with respect and understanding. If faith and trust are displayed by both partners in all aspects of the relationship, unconditional love is your reward. If you both demonstrate faith and trust in all of your dealings with each other then all your relationships will flourish. This type of love will withstand all types of adversities with honor and longevity.

Every person walking the earth is looking for unconditional love in order to fulfill the need to give and receive affection. The desire to be loved unconditionally is a part of our make up, so most people look for this love in all the wrong faces. Most feel that they do not have to work for true love. They feel that unconditional love is the sexual part of the relationship. But unconditional love will last through the good times and the bad. Unconditional love will be with you as you face the realities of life after the sex is not as important. Unconditional love is the love you experience when the lights are on and you can see your mate for the person they really are.

Unconditional love is the foundation of a truly happy relationship. Deep respect, passion and true happiness are the rewards you will receive when unconditional love is your goal. Always remember it is your choice on whether or not your relationship embraces unconditional love.

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