by Barbara Kasey Smith

Created on: September 25, 2009

How to build trust in friendship?

When we have a good friendship with someone, we usually treasure being friends with them, and we never want to do anything that would ruin the relationship. A friendship is where two people unite, share, and enjoy being with each other. A dear friend becomes like a family member, and in time, the relationship grows to be powerful with sincere feelings for the person. They become a part of our lives and when we are away from them we miss our chats, a feeling of security we get from them, the closeness, sharing and the comfortable, enjoyable feelings we have when we are around them.

Here are the things that are important in a friendship:

(1) In a friendship, it's my belief, we should be honest and truthful with our friend at all times. We should never fabricate stories, lie, be dishonest, disrespectful, tell what we've shared with each other, deceive them, neglect them, put them down, find fault, etc. We should at all times be frank and truthful when we are asked an opinion about something.

(2) We should never be wishy-washy and not tell them the truth. A friend should be aware if they ask a friend a question it's going to be responded to in a truthful opinion. This should be settled between two friends...if we don't want the truth then don't ask them. This is wise because then the friend will not get mad when we give them an honest response.

(3) We should never ignore or mistreat a friend around other people because this can cause a number one friendship let down and ruin a friendship in a heartbeat. When we mistreat a friend or ignore them when we are around others, this can be the same as stabbing them in the heart. It may destroy a friendship that has existed for years.

(4) We should be available for a friend, in sickness and in health, whenever they need us, and we should show them support in their time of need and come to their rescue if they are having a serious problem or health issue. We should never refuse a friend when they call on us unless we're having a serious issue ourselves.

(5) Never make a friend feel uneasy around us. Do not show aggravation or stress when they stop by for a moment to check on us or tell us something. Do not be in a rush or hurry to get them out of the door...keep the welcoming mat open at all times.

(6) We should always show compassion and concern about a friend and let them know they're special to us.

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