by Barbara Kasey Smith

Created on: September 25, 2009   Last Updated: September 26, 2009

Should you tell your partner if you dream of someone else?

*A person's dreams are sacred:

Let me ask this question back to you before answering the above question, why in the world should we share our dreams with a partner...many things in our lives should be sacred and not shared with anyone? It is my belief, that our dreams belong to us, and they should not be revealed to anyone unless we want to discuss it with them. When we share a dream with a spouse, it could cause a form of jealousy to begin to exist between our partner and the person we've dreamed about. Our partner will immediately begin to think that maybe, just maybe, we have a crush on the person we have had the dream about. A piece of advice...do not cause this type of friction in a marriage or relationship...we need to keep our mouths shut...because a jealous partner might become enraged for "no" apparent reason with the person we've had the dream about. We'll only be adding fuel to a thought that has never existed before.

*Do we provide too much information to others?:

It's my belief, in our society, we provide too much information about ourselves to our partners, spouses, family and friends, and if we cannot keep some things private in our lives, we should put a zipper on our mouths. Many problems exist in our lives because we "tell" too much about ourselves to those close to us and to other people who are around us. Now, I'm not saying if we desire to tell a funny dream and have a good laugh with our partner or a friend that it's not okay...sure it's okay.

In today's society, we have a tendency to tell too much about ourselves, as well as, about our dreams and thoughts with other people. Did you ever stop to think, other people share it with the world? They may inadvertently omit saying "it was only a dream" and the person tells our other friends about it but neglects to tell them it was only a dream. They then tell another person who we hardly know and it's passed on as a truth, when in reality, it was only a dream. Today's society likes to talk too much about what happens in their private lives to others and it should be kept between partners, a best friend, or should not be discussed outside of a relationship or a friendship at all.

*Summation:

In my opinion, our world tells too many things about their lives to others and everyone ends up knowing more about our lives than we know about ourselves. People are to anxious to discuss everything, even their dreams, their sex lives, etc., with people, and to me, this is a mistake. Keep private things to yourself.

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