by Leslie Trotter

Created on: September 25, 2009

How sex between friends change the dynamics of friendship

The dynamics of friendship will change if there is sex involved. These days, it's called friends with benefits or bed buddies. There is emotional attachment involved with sex between two consenting adults no matter what you call it, sex between friends is a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

Can you imagine meeting someone and falling in love with them, but there is one catch, He or she has a best friend that is a bed buddy. I'm sure you won't ever hear that detail from your partner, and maybe what you don't know won't hurt you. Trust me it will eventually. If two people can separate their friendship feelings from a sexual relationship, I say more power to them. It can be possible with some people. However, with most, sex connects them emotionally to their partners.

If your friend has had a terrible breakup with his or her, boyfriend or girlfriend and they are looking for someone to fill a sexual void, friends with benefits can become a possibility if you're attracted to your friend and he or she feels the same about you. It doesn't always work out, when one friend secretly falls in love with the other and that "no strings" pact they made together is looking grim, because now the dynamics have changed.

Jealousy becomes an issue when you find a loving relationship with someone else other than your bed buddy, friend. Therefore, leaving room open for jealousy to arise from your friend who has fallen in love with you. Having monogamous sexual flings with your friend should be discussed so that safe sex become a habit so that no unwanted pregnancies or sexually transmitted disease becomes a problem. It wouldn't be fair to your partner, if he or she is sharing you with your friend, It is cheating.

To avoid complications with a good friend, Never consider having sex with him or her. Furthermore, if you and your friend come to a decision that this would be a good thing for the two of you, do whatever pleases you. Just remember that your decision can hurt you and others in the future, especially if you want to remain friends with each other even though you both will involved a boyfriend and girlfriend or a husband and wife in a new chapter of your lives and facing the facts that your partners may want to meet your friends.

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