by Joshua K. Bradshaw

Created on: September 24, 2009

I can honestly say being a single fella with many married/involved friends that singleness has its benefits. Granted, having that special someone to share life's joys with is truly wonderful. But relationships can be like a rollercoaster. You reach a pinnacle and suddenly experience a plunge, followed by nerve racking corkscrews. Singleness is more like a steady train going through a scenic area. You can enjoy the view without exposing yourself to the elements.

Freedom and Flexibility

When do I have to come home at night? Whenever I want. What will I have for dinner tonight? Whatever I want. Where will I go this weekend? Wherever I want. No checking with the Mrs. If one of my pals wants to do something spontaneous I can usually fit it into my schedule. Conversely, if I was married and had plans with the guys I might have to drop them to be with her if she's in need of comfort.

Communication

Men and women communicate differently, and if you doubt me just watch all the sitcoms featuring married couples squabbling over every subject imaginable. I don't have to worry if I said or did something to make her mad. My married pals often find themselves in the doghouse because they said or did something their wives perceived as insensitive. If she made me upset, I would have to fight the urge to respond in kind, thus escalating the situation. When you're living in the same house with someone day in and day out it can put unbelievable stress on you.

Financial Concerns

If I lose my employment, it mostly affects me. Not so if I had a wife, let alone children. No matter which one of us made more the loss in income (either me or my wife) would be hard to deal with. And often money issues are the biggest causes of divorces. Living on a budget is good for those married or single, but for those married it is an absolute necessity. Money or lack thereof can be a major cause of mental and emotional stress in a marriage.

The In Laws

It has been said that when you marry someone you marry their family as well. That is mostly true. Bad relationships with in laws can be a major detriment to one's sanity. And what if you can never quite measure up to the unrealistic standards they had for a spouse for their son or daughter? They might feel entitled to come over as often and whenever they like, and if you tell them otherwise YOU'RE the bad guy. Often families get together for what is supposed to be a happy time at holidays. Often, though they turn into insane shouting matches when someone brings up politics, religion, sports etc. No thank you I say.

Pursuing Your Own Goals

One final benefit of singleness is that you are the master of your own destiny. You, and only you, have the ultimate say on where life will take you. Enjoy it, savor every breathing moment. Don't be in a hurry to find that special person. Find yourself first. Know your likes, dislikes, weaknesses, strengths. Travel, explore, create, experience. You deserve it. YOU are that special person!

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