by Elaine Sihera

Created on: September 23, 2009

What is your emotional self image?

Some people seem to sail through life with successful relationships while others appear to have constant battles with themselves. That could be down to one main factor: the emotional type we are. The way we feel, and are able to cope with life situations, controls our emotional health. There are three main emotional types of people.

Predictors (Main Trait: FEAR)

First, there are the predictors (whose confidence is often marred by self doubt) who live their lives in perspectives, seeing things well into the distance that aren't really there. Being controllers who are ruled by fear, they spend time mainly looking ahead and imagining the worst, instead of letting go and waiting to see what happens. Predictors focus on their destination, not their journey. In fact, they tend to fear that journey because they do not have much control over it. They often look at their life's road, see a little bend up ahead and immediately believe that the bend is a sharp one that will poke them in the eye or give them lots of trouble. They begin to imagine its impact and plan for it in all sorts of ways to compensate for its assumed shock or effects. They constantly fret, worry and fear their lives, using control - of others and their situations - to overcome those fears.

Dreading new experiences, and new gadgets which disturb their ordered pattern of life, they are prone to be loners with extremes of behaviour which they use to cope with their fears and discomforts. Predictors are often difficult to convince because of their inability to live in the moment; to simply let their hair down, to trust their instincts, themselves and others or to chill out and accept life as it is! Predictors tend to seek perfection in love from the very beginning and, if everything they desire isn't perceived to be there, they are reluctant to engage themselves in it. Of course, life is never perfect and so that approach leads to a lot of frustration and disappointment when things do not quite happen as expected. They tend to be givers but their love is usually conditional upon the partner acting in ways they find comfortable and acceptable.

Realists (Main Trait: CONFIDENCE)

The next ones are the realists who live in the moment and prefer to take things as they are. They value the present, looking neither backwards or too far forwards. They are usually very confident, optimistic people who have few fears because of their instinctive belief in themselves and abilities.

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