by Darcey Lee

Created on: September 22, 2009   Last Updated: September 25, 2009

A lot of people put on a front when they make friends. Showing their best side and elaborating stories about themselves, thinking it may make them more likable.

As time goes on and the comfort zone of friendships set in, the truth always reveals itself sooner or later. Do your friends know the real you?

If your friends think they know you and you are portraying to be a bit more than you truly are. This will result in negative effects later in the friendship.

Friendship is built on trust. What you see is what you get. Being everything you are and not faking anything about yourself. Being the true you in friends results in no surprise changes that can make friends turn away later on.

By portraying to be anything else other than your-self will not feel good. Living a lie, that will eventually always reveals itself later down the road, only results in disappointment. Friends will feel betrayed when they find out you have lied at all to them, and eventually the friendship will fail because friendship is built on trust.

I have known an individual that lives in a silent world of his own. He never reveals what is truly going on with his thoughts. Now and then he falls into a mood that I can not relate to and I see a side of him that I did not know existed. This stresses the friendship because I do not know this side of him. So while he is in this state of mind, he stays within the silence of his own world not letting anyone see this side. This results in, I have a friend that I know but do not know him fully.

Character traits are built on who a person is, and what they have gone through in life. Knowing only a certain part of someone ends in partially knowing them. How do you know your friendship is true when they do not truly know your friend? This is a friendship that is only surface friendship.

It is always best to let your friends know the true you. If they do not know the true you then in times of need or enjoyment, they do not know if you are really on the same page as they are so to say. This can leave an uncomfortable feeling for yourself and your friends.

When you think you know someone well only to find out later down the road that you never knew this person at all. How does this make you feel? When you believe what your friends tell you and you trust and confide in them, only to find out later they told everyone what you asked them not to. How does this make you feel? When you tend to a matter that your friend needs only to find out that they never really needed your help? How does this make you feel?

There are many angles to friendship and most are built on trust. How can someone trust you if they do not know the real you? How can friends understand you if they do not know the true you? How can you have a solid friendship if they only know the surface of who you are?

Honesty is the best policy. Be yourself and let your friends know the true you. You will all benefit by having a solid friendship in a relationship of complete comfort.

Be yourself and let it be known who you are!

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