by Jackson Serunjogi

Created on: September 20, 2009   Last Updated: September 25, 2009

Ideally, there are different values sought for in a man from those sought for in a woman. As a man, I believe am better placed to address the man mostly in the equation as he mostly is inflicted by the fear of commitment.

Below is most of what I believe traverses man's mind in his battle of definitions to find a perfect partner, and a 'tested' solution;

The female of all species is nothing less than the most beautiful creation of all times. If words could do it better, may be we would all call our spouses by one word...beautiful! But look around you, based on what she does best have we chosen to name them...honey for those that always put more sugar than required in your tea, sweet heart for they that have a longing for candy, darling for those that faithfully execute the chores, dentist for those that relentlessly empty thy pockets and the list is endless. None the less, a woman is a beauty.

Ladies can testify, record upon record on men they have met who practically lust and or crave for them courtesy of their outlook and yeah, I must say men find it hard to draw a line between LOVE & LUST as the latter takes precedence most of the time!Then outward beauty of a woman is most deceptive.To a man, upon seeing her, it seems like that is all he has ever needed...the body whose silhouette the moonlight worships, the flawless skin, the perfectly defined curves and all, not to forget the killer smiles and hypnotizing scents..etc.

Enough of the praise and worship, back to reality...why this beauty deceives the ladies more than the men is because they tend to focus on keeping up appearances, wear endless layers of makeup, spend nights perfecting their hair do and editing their nails like their lives depend on it for the PRAISE & WORSHIP from the viewers is worth more than the actuality of her innermost being. Certain that not all that glitters is Gold, men could afford to date carelessly but will not at any one time risk marrying carelessly for they, surprisingly, can see further than the outside beauty in a woman they choose to spend a lifetime with! He can play along with the charm as the lady thinks he is in some sort of trance or obsessed yet deep down its clear to him that spending a life with her is the greatest mistake he can ever make!

For the love of the attention, affection and praise, what I choose to call [AAP], the externally beautiful lady will always evolve into bitterness and depression whenever that aspect of their lives goes unnoticed. Consequently,

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