by Lorelei Cohen

Created on: September 20, 2009

Love is that mushy gushy stuff that makes your heart sometimes feel like it is being twisted into the shape of a pretzel. It is being accepted for who you are, and being accepting of the other persons faults, and insecurities. Love is very giving. It is a deep rooted caring for another person that is so strong that it makes you wish that you had the ability to heal every hurt that they might feel. You want so badly to make them smile when they are sad, and yet sometimes this same love is filled with anger, jealousy, bitterness and even hate. Some days you would like nothing better than to wave a magic wand, and make this same person just "poof", and be gone away.

So Is love over rated? There is absolutely no doubt that it is and, this over exaggeration of it's merits is perhaps the number one reason why, in so many cases love fails.

We go into love with unrealistic expectations of what it will do for us. Men may see the one they fall in love with as a partner who will always be there as a best friend. One who will provide unconditional moral support, as well as provide all the comforts of hearth, and home like mom once did. But also a partner who will be there to satisfy those all so important physical, emotional and sexual needs as they arise. Women might look for their lover to be a confident, friend and night in shining armor. A man who will take care of both their physical, as well as emotional needs, and protect them from any harm or poverty that might otherwise occur. It all sounds like such a very pretty dream, and it is just that, a fantasy.

Lovers become disillusioned when they discover that their partner can not meet the expectations that they have set out for them. Couples do not get along all the time. They disagree, they argue, and they do get angry at each other. Each member of the union is human, and as such cannot act out perfectly the roles, and ideals that are expected of them on a daily basis. We get tired, we get grouchy, we get moody, we are human, and for this reason we may not always do the right thing. Lovers must learn to accept their partner for what they are, and not for who they want them, or expect them to be.

Love is just far too over rated. The expectations for it are just too high, and so it often disappoints though who enter into it, and this is perhaps the number one reason as to why it fails.

When you first fall in love you feel all warm and gooey inside. You feel so giddy and happy that half the time you wind up with a big

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