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Created on: September 19, 2009
How to Get Dates with Women
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus says it all really. Women thing with both sides of their brain and men don't. Women use far more emotion in thinking and reacting than men do. Women feel, most of the time, and men think. The title of this article is really ridiculous. You just want to know if she likes you? However, here's how to make contact with women. Men go overboard to try and get a woman to like them. In reality, it is shallowness since she's hot and I want her. Being too sensitive is also a turn-off. You have to be comfortable with yourself to attract women. If you are average looks, you might get lucky. You don't have to settle, however, if that one you want is the beauty queen and you are a nerd, not gonna happen. Get the Dummies Guide to Dating.
If she moves to you, good sign. Keeps eye contact. Good sign. If she puts her arms on the table and her head on her hands, you've found a good match. Moving away. even by looking away unless she's shy or standing away, means she thinks she too good for you or you just aren't a match. Use the tips below for her. Listen. Men talk too much. Yes, open the door for her.
Here's how to pick up women:
1. Research - Most women want someone that is genuine. Faking it is superficial and so are you. The best thing to do is observe. What does she do, what does she like, who does she talk to and is she married. Opposites do attract. So do similiars. If you find her likes you despise, look elsewhere. Basically, you are doing research.
2. Be confident when you approach her. Don't look in the wrong places; that's what research in for, dummy. "Hi, how are you?" is the best line when you are sincere. You care. Then, "How about we have a cup of coffee and see if we like each other?" Keep eye contact. If she is shy, follow her eyes and lose eye contact till she comes back. If she's hung up on herself, just simply say, "Okay, how about we have a cup of coffee and see if we like each other." Keep eye contact for a minute then walk away. She'll come your way to say yes. If she doesn't, you don't need her. If she keeps eye contact, ask the same thing. Might be then or later. Just simply ask, "Great, how about tomorrow at..."
3. The "Date" - Women love compliments. Comment her eyes or hair if she's giving you her full attention. Listen to her and give her your full attention. Remember the research. Ask if she likes what you found out she likes or something similar. Maybe bring it with you if a book.
4. The "Real Date" - Bring one red rose. Do the same thing on the "date" but hold hands when walking. Kissing next time. Unless she's really into you. Anything else is your morality.
5. The "3rd Date" - Bring one red rose. Same stuff.. Hold hands. Compliments. Eyes and hair. Listen. Kissing happens. Quiet place. Maybe dancing. Just lean in and attempt; she'll let you know if kissing isn't going to happen. The rest is your morality.
Bad times to ask for a "date": anytime. Stick to the plan. You might be shocked she said yes. The rose thing. After the third date, send her a dozen. Rejection happens. Stay confident. Just say, "I still think we could hit it off" then leave it alone. Might happen. Might not. Rejection is a great tool to perfect your approach. Remember, don't be discouraged; there's someone for everyone. This works. If you aren't getting dates, what do you have to lose? Two hundred dates later, and a failed marriage, and it still works. Nobody gets it right the first ten times.
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