by aurora97

Created on: September 19, 2009

People judge gays and lesbians because it is socially accepted and normal to judge everything that is different or uncommon. Another reason is that judging someone else is an excellent way of redirecting the attention from the real problem. The real problem is their own life.

Like any life it lacks something. However, instead of dealing with it, people focus their interest to something or someone that is completely different from their own life. Closing their eyes in front of their own problems, and judging others is the magic formula of oblivion. Does this solve the problem? Of course not. However, it makes them feel better to judge gays and lesbians.

Gays and lesbians are always a target for judgmental and negative point of view. Society is also partly to blame. Since everything starts in the family, maybe there are the roots for this behaviour. Religious influence is not to be neglected in this problem either. They have also contributed to this judging virus of gays and lesbians.

When something is not socially acceptable and right in terms of general perception then it is often being judged. Instead of digging under the surface of a problem, people choose judging because it is much easier. Then, it makes them feel better about themselves in a way. People probably think "there is someone who is twisted and not normal" so let's judge him or her.

Judging gays and lesbians is not only rude and uncivil, but it is also selfish. It shows how people can sometimes be very narrow-minded.

When you judge someone who is gay or lesbian, you are also invading his or her privacy. This is also something that is easily forgotten. Laziness of mind also contributes to the judging of gays and lesbians. We may not agree or like whom someone chooses to like, but the bottom line is: It is none of our business as long as nobody else is being hurt or harassed. Love is love.

Picking someone else as a target is always easier than taking some time to try and understand what is the reason of their choice of love. It is their most intimate right that they have. We may not like it. We may even find it repulsive. However, they are entitled to live and love and be loved.

Judging gays and lesbians is an act of cowardice. You are a coward if you cannot face your own life, and you choose to judge someone whom you don't know. Above all, you have absolutely no right to judge anyone. It is a true democratic point of view to allow others to live the best they can. Life is already complicated and complex without prejudices, judgmental behavior.

Gays and lesbians are first and foremost people. As such they have emotions. Hurting and judging them will not make you feel better. Maybe for an instant. And then what? Judging them will not improve your life. Exactly the opposite.

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