by Sadeep Man Tulachan

Created on: September 18, 2009

Some people believe that we can develop our relationships after getting married. It is not unacceptable because one can develop relationships with each other after getting married too, which may last longer. On the other hand, majority of the people prefer to choose love marriages because they assume that it is better to understand each other before hand of marriage. So, while it is becoming the subject of debate, I prefer to choose the one with love.

However, there shouldn't be any particular views about these systems of marriages because both can end in failure and success. It depends upon the relationships between husband and wife rather than which options should be chosen in one's life. It is true that for some people arranged marriages are successful and vice versa for others.

Many have found that arranged marriages are successful in their lives but not everyone is lucky. In one way their parents are happy with them and they are happy as well in their lives.

Arranged marriage is popular among those who have a nuclear family, in which the decision making of marriages of their siblings goes priorities to the parents and also even if elder than though of parents. So, the family has to decide to whom their daughter or son shall get married.

In the past, people used to do marriages even though they do not know each other. Furthermore, child marriages were being prioritized in some countries, parents used to arrange marriage for their daughters at the age of twelve and fourteen to the man of her father's age. Moreover, they arranged their children marriage while they are born. Though, such trends are vanished now, but still practice in some parts of the world.

However, nowadays, arranged marriage is refined that parents give permission to meet and understand each other before hand of marriage. After knowing each other they may get married soon. But, one must make sure that whether both have feelings or not because without love and feelings even arranged marriage cannot be successful.On the other hand, love marriages seem to be more liberal way of choosing one's life partner. But, there is no any guarantee that doing love marriages may have an end result of loving relationships in their lives. So, it depends upon the relationships whether both truly love each other or not.

Love with selfish motives does not last longer because in few years one may lose interest in one's life partner, though this might have been having unconsciously to them. So, they must make sure that whether they are selflessly loving each other or not.

If one does love with each other after love or arranged marriages seem to last longer and is the most important thing that we should go for it rather than choosing which side is safe.

Hence, here we find that "love" is important in both marriages. However, if they are in real love, nothing can be better than love marriage, which will without doubt last longer.

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