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Love means different things to different people, but probably one thing they all have in common is the unselfish giving of ourselves and showing our benevolent concern for the good of another. Some people usually think that being attracted to one person means that they love them, but true love goes beyond the attractiveness on the outside.

Seeing a stranger for the first time and admiring their beauty and physical attributes does not mean that you are in love. It may be true that you feel mesmerized by the sheer beauty of what you see on the outside, but love cannot exist without knowing a person first. Love is more than adoring and appreciating the external characteristics of a person, you also have to know and appreciate what they are on the inside. Accepting both the positive and negative aspects of an individual and knowing their whole character are necessary before you can say that you love a person.

People who say that they fell in love at first sight simply mean that they are in awe of the good looks they see on the person. Seeing the physical aspect of a person is the only thing people know when they meet or see somebody for the first time and nothing more. Falling in love takes several steps from meeting the person, admiring them, getting to know them, accepting them, and eventually loving them. You cannot possibly say that what you feel is love when you see a complete stranger for the first time. You are merely basing it on the loveliness that you see. This feeling may be just physical attraction, admiration, or crush, but love is very far from it. It may only be a coincidence when there are couples that end up marrying each other and saying that they felt love at first sight even before then. It is a mere chance that the attraction they felt upon seeing the other matches its personality and character, which they have come to love and accept.

Let us not forget that there are many situations wherein people are very much attracted to an individual, that sometimes they thought it is love, if not pure obsession. But upon talking to them and knowing their character, values, and personality immediately had a change of heart. What they felt is just a physical pull that can easily be altered upon getting to know the person better.

Love is a profoundly, tender affection for another person. It is unselfish in a way that we put their needs and well-being before ourselves. This kind of love can never be real until we get to spend time with the person, getting to know their whole self, and accepting them for what they really are. All these things cannot be achieved just by seeing and looking at another individual. For love to develop, continuous collaboration, communication, and partnership must be present. Being attracted to another person for the very first time that we see them is definitely just the first step on being in love with them.

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