by Tiffany Miller

Created on: September 15, 2009   Last Updated: September 16, 2009

Tips on Talking To Your Teen Girl about Sex

No matter how we mothers look at it, there is no one right way to talk to our daughters about sex; because we all have different parenting styles and views of what is acceptable. I have spent time thinking about the subject at hand, and I have to say, I cannot help but to wait in anticipation and unavoidable anxiety about the day when my daughter comes to me, hopefully offering questions rather than information about sex. So, I have compiled a few different strategies to talk to your daughters about sex, and I tried to stay as unbiased as I could.

First of all, talking to your child about sex is not condoning it. It is neither a battlefield nor a game of whom the boss is or who is going to win, because confiding should not feel like an argument. The best way to do what is best for your daughter is to inform her, give her the information she needs and deserves to be a responsible person and help her make an informed and educated decision; because we must face it that she is ultimately the one that makes it.

Listen: Really hear what she is saying when you talk to her. Do not try to read between the lines. Do not make accusations based on her questions, and even if you do pick up on something, do not ask questions of subject or make her reveal something she is not ready to tell you. If you wait to the end of the conversation, she should have the confidence in telling you the things you read between the lines.

Breath: Ok, so your little girl is asking you about some really adult things. That can be overwhelming. You might feel a little old and maybe even a little resentful, but remember you love her, and even if you beat her black and blue, sex is sex is sex, and it will eventually happen. It is best to deal with it now, while she is willing to hear you. Instead of fearing for the worst, just try to be glad that she believes in you. If she did not, she would not be asking you, so return the favor, because it is one.

Be honest: Answer her questions like her life depends on it, because one day it might. Be truthful about all the dirty details if she asks about them. It could be a little embarrassing talking to your baby about cunnilingus, but remember, what you do not tell her, someone else will; and you may not like what someone else tells your daughter about sex.

Stick to the facts: It will be easier to talk to her if you do not throw in your opinions. The only opinion you should make clear is when you think is

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