by Joan Inong

Created on: September 14, 2009

Everyone's parents are different. For some, their parents are open and easy to hold conversations with. For others, their parents can build walls between them and their children. However, once you become a mature adult or once you have become a parent yourself, you will want to ask your parents some questions to guide you on your journey.

Most parents will have valuable pieces of information that will help you become a better parent or will help you learn to understand why they treated you the way you did. For many people, asking their parents these important questions raises some possible inside psychology for the way their childhoods were formed, and why they are the people they are now.

One important question that comes to mind is, How did you feel your life was before you had children and after? This question obviously takes a lot of honesty to answer, and it may offend some people. For, some parents truly wanted to have children and wouldn't have felt that their lives were complete without them. For other parents, however, children were accidents that may have become financial burdens or unexpected gifts.

Another good question to ask would be, What kind of advice would you give to a new parent? Not only will this help you later on, if you decide to become a parent, but you will also understand why your parents brought you up the way they did.

To add to that previous question, you may ask, "Was I a good child?" This question may get some conflicting answers, but it is a good way to go back to your childhood through the eyes of your parents, which may sometimes be hilarious.

And yet another good question is, Do you regret ever being a parent? Now, this is perhaps the most important question of all, and it gets right down to the heart of any problems you may have had with your parents. Some parents won't tell the truth and their children may never know, but most parents will say that becoming a parent really changed their lives. The experiences before and after were different, and couldn't be described as regret. Rather, it was change.

Remember that whenever you ask these emotionally charged questions, it is important to ask them with respect in mind. Although you may sound like an adult who just wants some answers, your parents may have other thoughts in mind.

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