by Dawn R. Babcook

Created on: September 13, 2009   Last Updated: September 14, 2009

The problem with today's children is not that they necessarily have issues such as ADD, ADHD, ODD; it's that the medical profession is more into the money that they can take from the people of todays society by continually prescribing and changing medications when they make what I term as an assumption as to what the childs true problem is when they act out in an inappropriate manner.

We are currently dealing with a 13 year old child who over the last year has been on Concerta, Lexapro & now Strattera. All of these medications had started at a low dosage and were not making any difference in this child. We are still dealing with all of the same behavioral issues as we were before. Now that he has been on a higher dosage of Strattera the only difference we have seen in him is that he isn't as easily angered as he was prior to its usage. We are also going to be starting with our 3rd therapist as the 1st two were woman and were not able to get anywhere with him. Just to give you an idea of what some of the issues are that we are having here is a partial list:

1.) Repeated defiance of any adult

2.) Continually going out of his way to annoy anyone and everyone

3.) Repeatedly arguing with children and adults alike

4.) Often loses his temper or angers easily

5.) Blames others for his own wrong doings

6.) Is spiteful and vindictive

7.) Is often angry and resentful

I have addresses all of these issues with each of his therapists. His first therapist stated after about 6 months that she was able to see that he was in need of more help than she could give him and she recommended that he start seeing a psychiatrist. We began taking him to see a female psychiatrist who would not follow through with anything and had more empathy for him and his needs than those of us the adults who have been dealing with it for such a period of time. No one has yet to be able to get through or into this childs head to get to the real source of the problem.

We have explained that one of the major problems we can see with this child is that his biological mother walked out on him and his father before he was even 2 years old, and has had very very minimal contact with him throughout the years. This I believe is what causes a great deal of his anger and hostility towards women. This being said we have opted for a male therapist who will be making weekly visits to our home to see him.

We have also seen repeated behaviors such as urinating and deficating himself, attempts at commiting suicide, physical harm of other types upon himself and others. Those are just to name a few but as I said no one wants to focus on the problems we have been dealing with, they would rather just take things one day at a time and start fresh from the current time. We have tried explaining to them that for the past several years these things have just gotten worse but they repeatedly tell us they do not want to hear about the past.

I guess for me I just don't understand why the past does not want to be heard of as it plays a big role in the current days behaviors. Why is it that for professionals it is just so easy to see a child for a brief time and "assume" that this is the problem. It seems to me that everything now a days is about money and money only, not like the older days when professionals actually cared obout the people that they treated.

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