by Andrea-Lee Peters

Created on: September 11, 2009

Wouldn't it be fantastic if there was actually an answer to this question, unfortunately for those of us out there who would like the answer, there isn't. The truth, everyone is different and we are all affected by things in different ways. What may take one person a few weeks to recover from, may take another a few months, or a few years depending upon the circumstances surrounding the relationship with the person you are trying to "get over."

If you have been dating for simply a few weeks, then the likely-hood is that getting over them will not be too difficult. A few months may take a little longer, a few years or more then chances are you may be struggling with this for a while. Human beings desire companionship, no-one likes to be alone, and therefore if you have had another you love close for a while then your heart will be sore for an extended period of time after they are gone.

Does it matter who called the relationship off? Yes and no, again dependant on the situation. Generally if you are the one being broken up with then yes, it may take you longer to get over it. On the other hand, if you called off the relationship but did it because you thought it was the best thing to do, yet you still care deeply for this person, you probably are still going to struggle for a while.

How was your relationship? Was it good, bad, or ugly. Was there abuse? Was it perfect? Who's perfect? Again factors that will feature in to how long it takes you to recover is what you are recovering from. Relationships that have been truly questionable for whatever reason generally take longer to bounce back from. If you have been in a relationship for several years all of which were bad yet it took you a while to build up the strength and confidence to leave, chances are you will need a while again to continue to build that confidence before embarking on a new relationship venture.

Relationships are things that have no right answers. What works for one doesn't work for another. Our personalities depict who we are, what matters to us and how long it takes us to recover form things. Take your time, breathe and do what ever is best for you no matter how long it may take!

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