by Deborah Coshun

Created on: September 11, 2009

Loving someone is like giving a part of your soul to another person. You can't truly love another person and remain a separate part of that person you love. If that person you love has a problem, becomes sad, becomes angry, etc., you feel their pain as if it were your own. You can't love without experiencing hurt. To love someone else is giving a part of yourself and caring about another person and being there for that loved one through good and bad times.

All of us need to love and be loved to feel complete. We may not feel the need to complete that with the bonds of marriage but we need to be a part of love. Love can be within the family or outside the family but we need love. All of us go through the problems of life and can not escape the ups and downs. By loving we double those moments as now we not only experience our own moments of pain but we also suffer the pains that those we love are faced with in their life. The pain you feel from loving someone and watching them experiencing a tragedy in their life hurts as if it were your own tragedy. Your feelings of inadequacy to help the loved ones through a difficult time can leave you feeling as if the pain is truly yours.

One of the worst hurts in loving is the loss of someone's love. A part of your heart is ripped out when you love someone and find that they can not return that love. Even when you know that the termination of this love as at an end the pain from that loss is deep and takes time to overcome. During this period of recovery, that love hurts more than the joy received while it was in your life. Oh yes, love can hurt.

The joy you attain from love certainly out weighs the extra pains and hurts you also gain from loving someone. However, never fool yourself into believing that by loving someone you will not suffer pain. Love hurts when you truly love someone because you feel not only your own pains but those of the ones you love. How can love not hurt if you are giving love as well as receiving it and sharing all that comes with this overpowering emotion called love. Yes, love hurts but the hurt is overcome by all the joys that come with it.

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