by Adeaga Adegbite

Created on: September 10, 2009   Last Updated: September 19, 2009

WHAT TO DO IF YOU CANT GET ALONG WITH ROOMMATE

You are heading to your university with dreams of checking into your room and meet your roommate. You even imagine finding a gentle loving friend where you can share and compromise with one another for the next few years. But unfortunately to your dismay, the two of you cannot get along. Infact, you guys are like cat and dog. For the next few weeks, there is always a conflict. And as the days go by the problem gets elevated. It is difficult to share love with someone you tackle problems with everyday. As time goes on, you rarely speak with each other and the problem gets bigger that it chocks you at the neck.

What do you think you can do if you can't get along with roommate? If the problem does not seem to be subsiding, it may seem that it can never be solved. Well, there are some few things you can try to resolve the problem. I'll list them below:

1. Talk to your resident advisor: when you report the catastrophe to him, he should be able to offer advice on how to get going. He should be able to find a reasonable solution to the problem. If it is beyond just advising then let the RA intervene. Let him talk to the two of you. He might bring a mutual understanding between the two of you.

2. Have a mutual conversation with each other: having a heart-to-heart talk with each other will solve a relationship which has conflicts. If you and your roommate can have an honest conversation, it may path the solutions way. Problems manifest as a result of misunderstanding and by talking it out can solve the problem. Not withstanding, communication may not actually make you best friends but at least the two of you might be able endure with one another.

3. Endurance: another best way is to bear or endure for the mean time. Try to feel there is something positive from the problem. Try to look at it as a learning experience. I am sure you will gain a lot that you will be able to apply in future when the problems occur. When persevering or enduring, just know that it will end at the appointed time. It is an important life skill you should hold on [endurance] so that you can tackle the future problem.

4. Request for a room change/roommates: this should be your last option when everything else proves abortive. People that cannot be getting along should be changed. Someone who brings down your grade plays loud music when you're studying and a messy/dirty type is no good for you. Endure the year, report to the authorities about your problem and explain your need to switch rooms with another person. When the above method does not work then you have no choice but to use the last method if you really need peace of mind.

I've had a lot of experience about keeping cool with roommates that is why I could list the few things helped me and I know it should be applicable to you if can follow numbered steps.

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