by Miravanni

Created on: September 10, 2009

To trust someone is to believe that we can see past the mask, to be trusted is for someone else to believe that they have seen who we really are underneath all our Mask. Our defense barriers we keep to keep people out to protect ourselves for whatever reason. People all want the same thing really when it comes down to it, intimacy. Mostly the problem lies is a person not looking into oneself long enough to understand what they really need and what's healthy and nurturing in the connection they seek. Not everyone has our best intentions at heart some people have their own needs for selfish reasons but we as a society are starved for affection and love.

We barely touch, hardly make eye connect all the messages our bodies say are clearly ignored as a means to provide personal space and privacy for others. Our own politeness for one's person space has built some serious barriers.

What makes us human is our ability to love so strongly,some where throughout evolution our idea on what love should be with your mate has changed but the basic human need is the same. We all wanna take the mask off, we all wanna truly be loved and be seen for who we are and accepted for our strengths and our weaknesses,we want so desperately to be able to just have that connection and emotional fulfillment.

If you look at cheating,and why cheaters seek this out it makes this point even clearer, the stakes are not high the cheater does not have to emotionally invest time, money, energy and yet receives what they feel is emotional fulfill because the relationship provides the initial intimacy that we all seek out in the beginning of our relationships ships. Cheaters provide lack of time, money, space or ability in order to avoid admitting they just aren't getting enough connection for whatever reason.In cheating the cheater can be totally up front about their desires and not fear any repercussions because they are really only looking for immediate gratification.

People who cheat continue to cheat until they actually take the time to look deeply into themselves and understand who they are and what they need and that it's one's own responsibility to make one's self happy and fulfilled before one seeks out another person to share this with, until one can take all the mask off and be willing to just fall arms open straight down and not really see what happens at the bottom and not be afraid to do it, one will never receive the emotional fulfillment one seeks out the two of any relationship.We

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