by Helen Suenaga

Created on: September 10, 2009   Last Updated: September 11, 2009

Dating in general can be a scary thought, through these days many women will try to fit into the media's frenzy of what the norm is for a women's size, shape, and looks. Today's society and media feeds on the fitting in to the perfect body. The masses of women who can afford plastic surgery or tummy tucks will flock to receive these expensive procedures just to fit in.

Unfortunately, nothing in life is perfect, ever. And having a medical procedure may or may not increase your chances of succeeding in this society's dating scene. The point is why change yourself to suit the general public, when finding the one person who will love you and care for you just as you are, a beautiful and sexy woman.

The past few years I have been dating and being a larger woman have met several different men. I have not had difficulty meeting different and interesting people. In fact, I rather enjoyed the experiences and men that I have met since starting to date. I have not only learned about myself, I learned about what is available out there and what I want. I have learned there is someone out there for everyone, I know I found my prince charming and I absolutely love him.

The key factors to keep and learn about yourself are within you. I have presence, charisma, and confidence which shows while I am with the men I date, my friends, and family. Personality and attitude is important because this is the making of who you are today. The main characteristic which can take you far is confidence. Learn about yourself, what do you like, and love yourself entirely for who you are.

Here is a little sad story for you to ponder. I have a friend who is gorgeous down to her toes. She was a professional model and now she does seminars for self-help groups. She projects attitude, wit, and above all confidence to her viewers. She has everything and also has nothing. She has yet not found her prince charming and refuses to date any longer. After three divorces and two broken engagements, she has finally given up. This of course has nothing to do with her looks or confidence, but her expectations. Sad but true, she is still looking for someone special.

The point of the matter is believe in yourself, love yourself, be yourself, and remember that not all men want high maintenance or Barbie Doll figured women. Dress appropriately with class and show your true side of confidence and beauty. Good thing come to those who wait and this still holds true till today.

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