by Darcey Lee

Created on: September 09, 2009   Last Updated: September 11, 2009

When a woman falls in love outside of her marriage, this means it is time to move on.

Both husband and wife have to come to terms with the fact the relationship is over. There is nothing left to salvage, and staying in the marriage for sake of convenience will leave both people very unhappy.

Love does not die, people change as time goes on. When time goes on it is quite possible the needs and wants of an individual change. This does not mean that she never originally loved you. This means her needs have changed. If she has fallen in love outside of the marriage someone else has met her needs and fulfilled an emptiness she felt within the marriage.

Often a husband will feel as though he has failed in some way, shape or form. This is not the case at all. Of course this is going to hurt and the adjustments can be devastating while coming to the acceptance that your wife is in love with someone else. The bitterness, anger, and hurt is overwhelming. All you can do is accept what is, and move on.

Some husbands will turn a blind eye to the situation and hope the situation just goes away on its own. Eventually the tension, stress and bitterness will rise and cause an ugly ending to an already bad situation.

If your wife has fallen in love with another man, the only thing left to do is accept what is. You can not change what has happened and trying to pressure her into staying will only drive her further away.

Whether your relationship is short lived or long lived. Everyone comes together for one reason or another. Everything we encounter is a learning experience. Sometimes the clarity of why this has happened never revealed and sometimes the reasons are very clear.

Many women do not plan on falling in love elsewhere. Love is not something you can pick and chose to do or not to do. Love can take over like a tornado. The important thing is to make sure it is not lust and it is really love.

When a woman falls in love outside her marriage the world can feel as though it has turned upside down. Everyone is affected by the hurt and adjustments that need to be made. The husband, the children and family members all go through the intense emotions of the hurt.

There is nothing that can be done once this happens. The best thing a husband can do is accept the fact and carry on. It is normal to hurt and feel bitter. Look beyond the emotions you may feel and wish her well.

After going through the devastation and heartache you will probably realize it was for the best to separate and carry on. Staying with someone who loves someone else is more a heartache than separating from them.

Life is too short to be unhappy.

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