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This is a loaded question! What wives tell their husbands, or husbands tell their wives, is of no consequence to anyone but themselves; therefore, they should make a decision based on their separate circumstances. But I had to vote "yes" on this issue; yes, they should tell their husbands their romantic pasts, if the husband asks. The same goes, vice versa.

There's the obvious reason of how many partners someone has slept with; that increases chances for sexually transmitted diseases. Of course, people will want to know about past relationships for this reason. But this does not necessarily mean relationships, it means sexual partners need to be brought into the open.

I honestly think that if a husband asks about a wife's past, then yes, she should tell him. If he doesn't ask, he probably doesn't want to know. Preferably, they should have gotten all the stuff in the past out of the way before they even got engaged. It's all about being truthful; if the husband wants to know about her past, there's no reason she shouldn't tell him. If he gets mad about something that happened in the past, then it's his problem. But couples should be fully honest with each other, open and communicative. I fully believe, on the other side, that husbands should tell their wives about their pasts should they ask.

There is no reason to hide your past from your spouse, especially if they ask. If you're afraid of being judged for doing something that wasn't smart, well, why'd you do it? Or better yet, why are you with someone if you're scared of them judging you? It's all about being completely honest. I don't care what anyone says about "you'll just hurt your relationship more," "you're hurting any kind of relationship (family, spouse, friend) with lying."

Another good reason for your spouse to know of your past romances is if you're still talking to your ex. How would you feel if your husband/wife had a friend of 15 years, and only after you were married to them, did you find out it's an ex that he/she dated for 2 years? It was pretty serious at the time if it lasted 2 years, and a good rule of thumb to follow is if it happened once, it can happen again. I wouldn't trust my spouse if that was the case.

Anyways, this is my personal opinion, so I hope you enjoyed reading about it. I hope I didn't offend anyone.

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