by Rachelle E.

Created on: September 07, 2009

My husband died August 2000 at his funeral I discovered he had a son I did not know about my sister in law put it in the program and the obituary that I allowed her to write for his hometown. We lived out of state and I brought him home to bury him. The morning of his funeral I found out my husband had been unfaithful to me, it hurt so bad to this day I cannot breathe sometimes when I think of it.

Adultery destroys families, lives and trust. No one deserves that . To sin means to fall short of the mark of perfection. When you enter into an affair its a deliberate act a conscious choice you make to undermine your vows and disrespect your spouse. No one has an affair on accident, it does not just happen. You are a active participant in deception and its a choice you made . It is not a victimless crime, and you cannot undo the hurt and pain you cause.

Most people will say I had an affair because my spouse did not understand me , or no longer has the same sexual interest that I do, but they will not leave that spouse because they want it both ways. To live the secure life that being married gives them and the freedom of a single person.

Being in a committed relationship is not easy and the grass may look greener on the other side but its all the same grass and there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.

If you cheat on your spouse that is a character flaw and you must look within and figure out why you did it and how to fix it. No one can make you cheat or drive you to cheat , people cheat because they have the disease of entitlement. I want this so there fore I will do it.

The anger and hurt that would be in the way of moving past an affair is not worth it, the injured spouse would never totally trust again and always looking for signs of an affair, or may have an affair of their own to justify and call it even. When people are trying to get even with each other there is no room for healing.

A forgivable sin? saying you are sorry and asking to be forgiven does not make an affair right, nor does it restore trust or that lost innocence that a pure relationship has. Trust is hard to earn and easy to lose. an affair is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship and cannot be forgiven successfully.

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