by Miss Anita

Created on: September 04, 2009

Can a relationship with a cheater work out? What a question. It might be a work out, but I don't think it ever really works, especially for the one that's being cheated on.

This is where some people say, "Well, what IS cheating?" In my opinion, cheating is any sexually motivated activity that happens outside of the current relationship. Notice that I said "sexually motivated" activity. And yeah, that includes what you're thinking about doing to that girl that just walked by. Whether you're physically cheating or cheating in your mind, you're still cheating.

Low self-worth or even loneliness can make people do strange things. Many women get in relationships with men just because they're lonely or don't want to be alone anymore. Some women get in a less-than-honest relationship because they want someone to take care of them and their children. Some want the money, the lifestyle, and the status. "Show me the money!" For the most part, those women don't care if their partner cheats because the only thing that matters to them is the money, literally. It would be impossible for me to be in a relationship like that. I may be a rare and out of date bird, but I believe relationships should be based on honesty, companionship, and a desire to grow and achieve together. Personally, I've never understood why someone would stay in a relationship with someone that cheats. I mean honestly, what is the cheater saying about the victim (ahem... I mean the one that's being cheated on)? The cheater is saying that the partner is not important, not attractive or sexy, not as good in bed, and not worth time or respect. A person that tolerates cheating is saying the same exact thing, whether it's realized or not.

If you are in a relationship of convenience, and/or you don't have any feelings for the person that is cheating, the relationship might work. It may even last for awhile. But if that's the case, then it isn't really a relationship. Is it? A true relationship takes two committed people that actually want to be together. If one of them is cheating, something is wrong in the relationship. Either that, or the cheater is just a selfish pig that never should have committed to a relationship in the first place. Okay, that may seem harsh. But that is the reality of cheating. It is all about self... what the cheater wants, and no one else's feelings or opinions matters. Cheating equals lying, and it is an act of dishonesty and deceit. How can anything that is inherently dishonest work?

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