by Sharon Stellarini

Created on: September 01, 2009

Extroverted people tend to attract and connect with other people with incredible ease. Their confidence and natural charisma causes people to gravitate towards them. For this reason, extroverts typically not only have more lovers, but also more friends. However, this does not mean and shy and reserved people are doomed to a life of loneliness. The fact is that everyone has their own personality, and it is useless to try and become someone you are not to be successful in love. Eventually, your true nature will reveal itself and it is important, despite how cliche it sounds, to find someone who loves you for who you are rather than have someone who only fell in love with an illusion.

FINDING THE ONE

Finding the one may take decades. Finding a date can bring you closer to finding love, but it also requires a bit of time and effort. Whether you are male or female, you definitely do not want to be that creepy person at the bar, hitting on unsuspecting subjects. It is important to put yourself out there, but you do not want to look desperate. To increase your chances of getting a date, it would be a good idea to talk to someone you are attracted to on a casual basis. Perhaps, the person you have your eye on is someone you work or go to school with. It might be a good idea to begin a friendship with that person and invite them to hang out with some of your other friends to get to know them better. This may also save you the trouble and heartache of trying to pursue them when you realize in the end the two of you had no chemistry and were not compatible.

If there is no one in particular that you find yourself drawn to, it would be a good decision not to shun social events, but rather accept every invitation you receive. You never know who you are going to meet. And even though you may not meet someone at that specific social event, it is still important to mingle with other people and forge friendships, because friends can be great connections and eventually may lead you to the one you are meant to be with.

Relationships of any kind take time to develop and shy people might find romantic relationships easier if they stem from friendships first. Although the notion of love at first sight is idealistic, many people fall in love after being acquainted with someone for an extended amount of time. If you develop an attraction with someone you have a friendship with, don't feel pressure to ask them out right at the moment of your epiphany. Unless the person you are pining

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