by Barbara Kasey Smith

Created on: August 31, 2009   Last Updated: September 01, 2009

Why do marriages fail? Ah, the happiness one feels when they are first married and so much in love with each other...a married couple's dreams and plans for their future keeps them striving to accomplish and achieve their goals. Their drive and will power is unstoppable as they see some of their interests and dreams becoming a reality. Nothing can stop their constant drive to fulfill their desires and wants. Life becomes so busy until the months turn into years and they find themselves hardly ever sitting down to enjoy a cup of coffee together or to even have a discussion about the important things that means the most in their lives.

They lose touch with what matters most in their marriages and they find they're going their separate ways. Never time to address something they want to discuss with their mates. Never time to say, "I love you," or to offer a tender loving smile. Their minds are set on the chores they want and need to do or a meeting they must attend or a class they signed up for or a craft or boat show they want to attend. Life leads them to a missing link in their lives and they begin to wonder, "Is marriage really worth the time and effort they put into it?" They've lost touch with their romance and their tender moments to play sports or share a craft. They begin to wonder, "Was this ever real love?"

The struggles of trying to achieve goals in their lives cause a couple to loose focus on what is really important in their marriage. They begin to neglect a tender kiss or hug and eventually they haven't enjoyed a romantic evening together for months. Life is mundane and they live to get through the work-week to accomplish their week-end chores. Communication is a thing of the past and before they know it, they hardly ever speak or go anywhere together.

Many evenings they'll return from work and they are like total strangers to each other. It wouldn't do any good for anyone to ask them what their mate wore to work that day because they never took notice or did they even say a goodbye? They've actually have forgotten how long it has been since they've had an intimate evening together. The two of them are like electric robots performing their duties without bumping into each other.

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