by Pedro Vazquez

Created on: August 30, 2009   Last Updated: August 31, 2009

Even though some of you believe you can be friends after having an intimate relationship with someone,I don't believe this to be true, but then again, this is just my opinion. I strongly believe once you've crossed that line from friendship to lovers, things will never be the same again.

Sure, the both of you may think that things can go on as though nothing ever happened; how far from the truth you both are. It will change the way you see each other. You will start paying more attention to the way he or she really is, and even see things in that person that you didn't see before. And because you have crossed that line, trust me, your feelings toward that person will change as well.

At times you won't feel comfortable sharing personal details with this person, because now things will feel different. You'll even start changing things about yourself the minute that other person tells you there's something wrong with the way any part of your body may looks. You then start to think, "well, there was nothing wrong with it when we were making love." Yes, exactly, that's why you don't cross the line. Trust me, it gets worse; you ain't see nothing yet.

Even your outings will be different, especially when surrounded by other people. First and foremost, you'll be hoping no one will find out and then comes the "how will your friends treat the both of you." I mean, even they can't pretend nothing happened. Then sooner than later comes the jealous phase, that's when the real trouble starts. You will tend to get jealous if he or she is close to someone else. I mean, after all, you know what he or she is trying to accomplish. But what can you say or do, after all; you two are just friends. You have to sit there and take it as though nothing is wrong.

And that's why I strongly believe you should never cross that line. If you're lucky enough to find friendship in someone and their is a special bond between the both of you, just leave it there. Sometimes, friendships last longer than that intimate relationship. So my conclusion is, just don't mix the two; if you started out just being friends with this person, why turn it into something else. In other words; if the friendship you both have is working for you just fine, why mess that up?

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