When your children know the other woman
Many times this has happened, Your husband has an affair with another woman and he tries to make the children you share together be a part of the new woman's life. Sometimes with his wife not knowing about this arrangement. Innocently, the wife's children reveal this little secret to her and all hell breaks loose. No woman wants her husband to have secrets like this with her children. It's bad enough that there is an affair with another woman.
They're cases where a husband has cheated and has fallen in love with the other woman and have plans to divorce his wife and marry the other woman, and he wants his children and new future wife to accept each other, get along and fall in love with each other. Many men who cheat should continue to dream on because it isn't that simple.
Many woman might have to accept the fact that there is a possibility that their children just might be fond of and admire the other woman, she might be good to them.
Your children will understand that know other woman can take the place of their mother. I can't imagine any woman wanting their children to be hated and mistreated by the other woman, so it's wise to be respectful of the other woman's good treatment towards your children. The other woman should never try and take the place of you nor should she try and buy things or do things for them to make them think she's better than you.
The other woman shouldn't talk negatively to her boyfriends children about their mother, she should respect her boyfriends children and their mothers relationship. However, when your children know the other woman, it's best you have a conversation with them and find out how they feel about her. Furthermore, your husband shouldn't remain on the outskirts looking in, he should explain things to them, he should also want the best for his children and anyone he chooses to bring into his children's life should be in their best interest. He should make sure the other woman respects the fact that he had a life before she came along, and that he have children that deserve to be respected.
This is going to be an emotional roller coaster for your children, especially with getting used to their parents breaking up and the other woman coming in on the scene. They might despise her and not accept her. although, it is normal and expected behavior, it's not acceptable. Your children will need time to get used to the idea, and there is also a possibility they may never get used to it. If this happens, family counseling might be a way to go for your family.