by Robert Bruton

Created on: August 27, 2009   Last Updated: August 28, 2009

If you are going to share a sex dream with your honey that does not include them, let me suggest putting the pin back in that hand grenade. Especially if they don't understand what dreams really are. Sharing explicit dreams with your partner could be painful. Because let's face it sharing a dream where you swam in a giant bowl of jello while being chased by a fire breathing dragon, not going to get much play and a big roll of the eyes, but share a sex dream and you will have the full attention of your loved one.

First thing you have to understand is dreams are about the dreamer. They are not your secret passion you want to be with another. It's your subconscious mind telling you things to get your attention. Modern psychotherapy as you know it is in large part based on dreams and dream interpretation done by Freud.

Dream symbols such as past lovers are trying to tell you something. NO, they are not trying to say you want that person or lust for them. So if your spouse or honey understands dreams are about the dreamer then it could be ok.

Do you yourself want to hear an explicit dream that you are not a part of? Of course you don't. No one does. So is it ok? Probably not! No matter how open you think your relationship is, it's very hard to imagine your honey with someone else. Dreams are innocent and don't mean you want the person. In fact that is farther from the truth than you might imagine.

Pick up a Dream dictionary and look up the dream symbols for sex, men and women. It will surprise you to find out what they mean. When you dream your mind only has what memories you have in your head to draw from. A dream does not stop and go "oh no I forgot to put the wife where the ex girlfriend is" oops. Your mind uses your memories to give you a visual of what your dream is really trying to tell you. And remember the dream is always about the dreamer and no one else.

So if you have slipped and told your honey a dream that hurt their feelings simply get a dreamers dictionary and show them the symbols. Some things are best left unsaid. Explicit dreams probably are best left unsaid. Let your conscious be your guide.

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